afitz wrote: I made a pact with myself that I would never speak ill of the school....not the case for so many bitter people on this site look at all these malcontents and people with minds out of control slinging mud like there is no tomorrow
why did you feel you had to make this pact with yourself? and why should your feeling that SES was no longer the place for you be your issue and not SES's as well? are you less equal because you're gay? should I have been less equal because I am female? should we pupils at the day schools have been less equal because we were children?
I still know people within SES and some of them I love dearly and I'm quite happy to supply endless cups of tea when they come to visit. But should I love SES or defend it's mistakes just because it does some things well and has some lovely people in it? History demonstrates time and time again that 'a person' can be intelligent, sensible, empathetic but circumstances, received truth and the need for peer approval can influence groups of 'people' to be cruel, vicious and stupid. And IMO it would be wrong to never speak ill when ill has been done - a lie by omission - it would result in crimes never being prosecuted and history being falsified, which you could say is sort of like well erm what's happed to some of us... ?
BTW, to save you looking through all the posts for my agenda, I have a life but that's only because at 11 I was too inept to succeed in killing myself when SES doctrine conspired with real life events to make it unbearable. I reckon it's quite a nice life too. And I'm not in favour of forcing the day schools to close.