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TB, I mean no offence and I'm not making any criticism or comment on you personally. In a previous post you spoke of the sexually abusive priests at your school in such a detached way that it made me wonder if there was any forgotten feelings about the incidents you mentioned. There is plenty of lit...

Grimep, excuse me being rude and butting in here, but it takes two to tango doesn't it?? I didn't think you were being rude, of course you're absolutely right that it does take two to commit adultery, but you may notice that I said 'cause and contribute' in my last post. This was because DVO is a pr...

Hi Piet, Thanks for writing. I take it you didn't go to the Plato School since you are 38? I had pen pals from that school for ages - the Meuwisse twins, Rosalinde and Deiudonee, who were lovely. Unfortunately the reputation of the Dutch school was tarnished in the UK by the disgraceful behaviour of...

Wow ADG that is totally not what I expected- I thought you were an english guy in twenties! I'd be willing to share a little about me! Name-Emmalu9-the email name I've always had. Those who know that will know its me. Age-24 Sex-F Location-London Links with SES-pupil 1984-1994, family involvement ea...

hear hear NYC, that must have taken you ages! Its great to read a thoroughly coherent, honest and perceptive post. thanks.

Witness, I agree with your sentiments on TB. His stance on the forum is that of a critical observer, he writes a lot without saying anything at all. He alludes to SES experience but shares no information. His postings serve only to ?play the devil?s advocate? on a sit whose purpose is for the transp...

Daska, just a thought... your parents are adults now, they were adults when they allowed you to be abused at St James (and make no mistake, it was many forms of abuse, eg. emotional and intellectual neglect, humiliation, repression, sarcasm, condemnation, isolation, fear), and thay must be allowed t...

TB, I believe that this forum gives people a place where they can begin to heal the wounds inflicted through connection with the SES and St James schools. Sharing experiences and feelings with others whose lives have been similarly damaged can help to gain closure and to deal with a history of abuse...

TB, The 'rationalisation' of actions and events will only occur if it is necessary for the perpetrator and/or victim to alter their emotional reality in response to an imbalance. In the recent discussions of parental blame to do with child abuse at the St James schools, parents and teachers had to b...

Would like to offer support for anon for sharing her story, thankyou. I have experienced a similar communication void with parents unable to forgive themselves. My parents joined the SES in its infancy and sent myself and my four brothers to St James. Having been in therapy now for two and a half ye...

Hi Grimep, Hipshon was the form teacher of my opposite class, and when I was seated next to him at the wedding of my very old friend Richard Fletcher a couple of years ago he reminded me of this little gem: ''Dyslexia? its really just a state of mind.'' Classic ignorance from the master of the sharp...