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BTW- In case nobody had noticed from his consistently self-obsessed style, and need to listened to, 'Peter Sanders-Reynolds' is Stollar/Sandra. Yes, you are right - apart from their inimitably similar style, I've just had a look at the secret moderator tools and they confirm 'Matt Stollar', 'Sandra...

Thanks Mike, I hope no moderation will be required while you are away! :cool: For those that don't know my background from my other posts on this forum, my involvement with the schools was as follows: * I started at St James Boys in 1975 and was there for 11 years. * For around five years during pri...

The PMs in your out-box should after delivery have been transferred to your sent-box. Actually, according to the phpBB userguide, when a PM is still in your Outbox it means the recipient hasn't checked their inbox yet: "4.3.3: The Outbox When you send a PM, the message goes to your Outbox. It remai...

Her role on this forum is to communicate what David Boddy and the Governors tell her to. I think it is unfair to 'shoot' the messenger. I agree with you in part. Some people seem to be setting her up as the bogeyman in all this when quite obviously she is just a mouthpiece of St James. I think this...

My own reason for wanting anonymity has nothing to do with fear or shame. It's because I want to be judged as the person I am today - father, husband, working professional - not as a product of what I went through as a child.

One thing that protects those that abuse is the very strong desire in the abused to bury the past and forget it. I'm still in touch with one schoolfriend and I never mention school days as doing so will precede a 2 hour venomous rant followed by 2 days of darkness. Having to retell your worst exper...

What can I do? Like PSR I am not sure what you are asking, but assuming you are a former pupil of St James or St Vedast, you can start by telling us your memories of the school. Can you recall any examples of abuse - physical or emotional - that you experienced or witnessed? Do you remember any par...

The content of Boddy's post and both of C Betts' posts shows that the inquiry isn't restricted to the boys' schools and/or St Vedast. However, Mrs Betts' multiple references only to the 'St Vedast Inquiry', including the inquiry email address she has supplied, show that she is somewhat confused as t...

After some initial enthusiasm and an open mind about the inquiry I am now extremely doubtful that this is anything more than the whitewash some contributors to this forum warned about. My scepticism is due to the following: * As far as we can tell, the school has contact details for many of us. Yet ...

Shout has contacted me by private message and he's going to edit his comments in paragraph 3. In case anyone else isn't aware, you can edit your posts by clicking on the 'Edit' button at the top right of the post you want to change. You can, of course, only edit your own posts (unless you are Mike G...

Shout, I suppose this is a site for making allegations against people, but I think you need to be more careful before throwing around allegations of sexual misconduct. Sexual abuse against children is one of the most abhorrent activities, and therefore making public accusations against named individ...

The penguin is the logo of Linux, the free (or 'open source') operating system that is now the main competitor to Microsoft Windows.

As to to the pipe-smoker and his association with the penguin, Mike Gormez will have to answer that one!

It is excellent to read all these responses i just wish I knew who people were; being new to this form of communication, is this the norm that everyone talks under a strange alias? It's not obligatory to use an alias but many people do, not just on this board but on many others too. It's part of th...

Mike, I can see why Matt might be having some regrets about making a fool of himself in front of everyone he grew up with, but I don't think you should waste your time indulging him. He posted a heap of puerile, insulting and sometimes offensive drivel. As a result, you were forced to introduce post...

Clara, thank you for recalling what must be very painful memories for you. There are comparatively few stories on this board about the girls' schools and yours shows once again that abuse wasn't just limited to the boys' part of the organisation. The fact that Caldwell continued to call you a liar a...